The ARRIVAL Movie Screwed Me Up

I just finished watching the fantastic movie, The Arrival, as opposed to the “what?” Charlie Sheen movie, The Arrival. (#winning.)

Now I’m messed up.


So if you’re reading past my warning, I take it you’ve seen the movie and if you haven’t, well, ok, if that’s your thing, you’re weird.

The Director plays with past, present and future like a gambler with trick dice. In other words, it looks like everything is on the up and up but he knows exactly what’s coming and you don’t.We’re just a big, dumb guest from out of town who just walked in and laid all of our money down on one throw.

If you’re one of those people who feels superior to others by saying “I saw it coming all along.”, not only are you lying, but I’m afraid the only gold star you are getting is going to be rolled up really tight and shoved in your UFHole.

The movie shows the future as flashbacks, where Amy Adams has a child who eventually dies of cancer.

Later in the movie, we learn that the aliens (by the way, aliens land) and as she works to understand their language, we find out time has no meaning to them and its brushing off on Amy. She sees visions which we believe are flashbacks, but instead, she can see the future, she’s just not aware of that until later.

Now, go ahead and enjoy all the rest of the movie. The cool aliens from The Mist, Forest Whitaker and Hawkeye from Avengers are all great.

I’m here to talk about two things.

  1. The movie will make you sad because here are aliens trying to give us a gift, the gift of time, and all we can do is think about weapons and war. While I realize these characters are there to make you feel upset, they aren’t far off from real people in power. It’s 2017 and by this point in our life, we should be smarter. We should be living the Star Trek future, but it seems Running Man is going to be the theme of our humanity.With the marches and riots going on right now, its hard to think we’ll move past this.
  2.  The choice. Amy Adams knows full well if she has a child, it will grow up and develop cancer, which kills her around 14, maybe 15 years old.

We see her loving and having fun with her daughter. She truly loves her and feels she made the right choice because she knows about the good times they will have.

There is also a scene where we find out Amy gets divorced because her husband leaves, not being able to take the news that their child will die soon. The child says, “Daddy doesn’t look at me the same anymore.”


My wife didn’t see the movie and I couldn’t really post spoilers all over Facebook, so here I sit, stewing in questions of “What would I do?”

You absolutely know that your child will die of cancer. Heart wrenching, painful cancer that slowly eats their body and soul.

Do you still have a child?

Isn’t that selfish of you? When you have a child and think about the good times, great, but did you have a child JUST for those times?

Or does the child appreciate it? Does the child live a full life? Do they truly enjoy life because the parent gives them everything possible?

I fall into the category of “No.”

There’s no way I could make a child go through all that pain just so I could have some good times.

Buy a puppy.

Don’t do that to a child.

Am I wrong? I’m not talking about aborting a child because you found out something was wrong. I’m talking about not even trying because you know the outcome.

Am I wrong? I’d love to hear from other people on this.

And also, what about the husband? He just left? I know its a burden, but you left?

So thanks, Arrival. I’ll have to take Nyquil to get some sleep tonight.


I’m back in Podcast Form !

After a long hiatus, I’m now back on the air and with the Pants Pending podcast Studios.

Amanda King co-hosts this episode where we discuss kids walking in at inappropriate times, terrible kid concerts, a return of Nearly News and more things you should expect if you ever go viral for the World to see. As always, this podcast is PG-13, so its safe for your older kids and pets.


Has It Really Come To This?

This is Barren Trump. The child of Donald Trump. This child has recently come under attack by people who have never met him and, from what I can tell, sold their soul for a keyboard and Internet connection.

You can make fun of Trump. You can make fun of Obama. These are adults and like all adults, should be able to take it, but once you start insulting and hating a 10 year old child, you are, in no uncertain terms, a person with no values, common sense or social skills.
You are, in my world, an Un-person. A person who exists, but in a world I don’t care or what any part of.
You’re not being funny. You’re not being edgy. You’re not being the cool person going against the grain.
I’ve seen the horrific things people say about my daughter, who have never even met her. They insult her with brutal statements, only to quickly delete any posts, like a coward, when confronted by me or someone who has to remind them that she is an actual person with feelings.
My daughter is one of the strongest people I know, because she takes a lot of crap from strangers because of me. It’s MY fault we went viral, yet she takes the brunt of the crude, savage attacks by people calling her “slut” or “attention hog”.
She takes those attacks and I’ve seen the effects on her.
Most every single person I’ve messaged and explained to them about who we are, back down, delete posts or say “sorry”, which is the only reason I still do the stupid things I do.
A good 98% of the people who see our posts, get it.
They see the fun we have. They understand and have the common sense and wisdom to see that we’re just a family having fun.
If at any point it became dangerous for her, I’d shut it all down in a heartbeat. Know that.
Having followers isn’t as important as the safety of your family.
This is what I’ve fought since June. This type of insulting by keyboard trolls. The feeling of anonymity when you’re behind a computer. How you can look at someone on a screen and not realize they are an actual person.
I’ve never said anything on the internet I wouldn’t say to someones face, yet a lot of people feel they are “allowed”. That they have a right to be mean. And they do. It’s their right to type what they want.
But just because you can, doesn’t mean you should.
This is no different than the people who feel its ok to insult my daughter. The people insulting this child just for being in a certain family, I’m sure have never met him and would never speak to him like that to his face.
And if they actually did, well, my first statement stands.
You’re a person with no values, common sense or social skills. If that’s the way you want to live though, have at. Just don’t expect the rest of us to accept you as a normal human being.
If you dislike Trump, fine. Insult away. He’s an adult.
When you insult a child though, for just being a child?
It’s time to take a look at yourself and say, “Yeah, I COULD type that, but SHOULD I? Maybe I should just scroll on past and insult that chubby dad who dresses like his daughter. He’s an adult and can probably take it.”
#fightthegoodfight #selfiedad



Why Would You Post That?

Some of you may have seen a post I recently did from my instgram account with a “parent rant”, but then i deleted it soon after.
Now some have asked why.
Early this morning i was checking some comments on some photos/ videos i have posted. On one video that is my daughter singing, a rude comment was left.
I emailed this person, but not before i took a screenshot of their profile and their comment, then posted it under “parent rant” where i explained how there are REAL people behind each and every profile and photo.
Being mean or rude as you anonymously hide behind a computer isn’t right and it isn’t, shouldn’t, be normal.
I emailed this person about what they had done and the impact it could have.
He immediately emailed me back, explaining he was sorry and was having a rough week. Afterwards, we had a nice talk.
As soon as he understood there was a real person behind those photos, his attitude changed.
I deleted the screenshot because I thought it was unfair to this person to face any Internet mob, since they apologized and understood.
I won’t sit here and preach that I’ve never done it, but all this selfie thing has shown me, (especially reading the comment section in a Chewbacca Mom post. Geez, people. She laughed. Why so serious? ) that we need to understand, saying a personal video or photo someone posted of themselves, “sucks”, or “I’m just giving negative feedback so you know” or “this person can’t sing” or “your art needs a lot of work”, JUST KNOW, that “this person” may have posted it.
That “this person ” you’re talking about like they arent in the room, may be reading those comments.
That by posting something negative on THEIR creation, IT WILL BE READ.
It will be also be felt.
I also noticed earlier this week, a female friend posted a video and underneath, men were posting statements like “show me more”. ” show me your legs”.
Why is this ok? Why aren’t more people telling these cavemen that this is 2017 now?
We’re almost getting our own flying cars and people are going to land on Mars soon.
This strange way some people have of seperating real people and considering them almost like a character from a tv show, while also thinking there’s no problem posting obscene statements, needs to stop.
It’s not just people who may have some type of mental problems. It can be any person at any time.
Robots aren’t posting things out of the blue. REAL people are.
Real people with personal feelings and emotions.
(And those people are a HECK of a lot braver than others. I mean, who’s braver? Someone who creates something personal and posts it for the world to see or someone sitting in front of a computer screen all day, posting how bad they think it is?)
I’m not saying everyone needs to run around and start posting positive things all the time. You don’t have to be the one and only Smiling Internet Guru of Positivity.
Just know, you don’t have to post ANYTHING either.
There’s no law that says people are interested in everything you say.
I’ve looked. Trust me.
It’s very easy to see something, not like it and just keep on walking by.
Be it art, a photo or video. If it’s something positive someone has created, why tear it down?
It doesn’t work towards making you a better person or even making you feel better.
I know. I’ve been there too. Don’t fool yourself. People won’t think your cooler or smarter by “going against the grain” and being that one person who “bravely” says how something personal from you, isn’t good.
People hate that guy. They really do.
In this day of terrible role models who feel its ok to “grab women” or make fun of disabled people, we need to fight harder and more fiercely against these feelings and these types of people.
I’ve seen people made fun of for “white knighting” others.
We can’t be drug down into their level of “club them and drag them by the hair” mentality.
If you see something, say something.
Fight the good fight.